First of all, thank you for your emails and blog comments on how it’s been going with the
Seduction Series. Keep them coming! (And, let me just get this out of the way: if you are liking this series, COME TO SEDUCTION IS A SPIRITUAL PRACTICE! February 1st and 2nd. This is the last time I will be offering this
class until at least the Fall. I
promise, the very last thing you will ever do is regret it.)
Okay,
now on to the good stuff.
Last week’s step toward becoming a Sacred Seductress was
this: “when someone does something that pisses you off, no matter how little,
say something. Or, if you choose to not say something, take notice of how it
feels in the moment, and then in the days after.”
One
of the common misconceptions we have about the seductress is that she is either a) always
cool headed and never has to deal with people pissing her off because she would
never let things get to that point; or that b) she is a raging bitch and no one
dares cross her because she is so cold and ruthless.
Yawn.
These theories need a refresh.
The
entire point of my work is to take the seductress out of the realm of a
mythical figment and into a human being.
Human beings get pissed off. Human beings piss each other off. This is normal. The craft of our seduction practice is how we
deal with being pissed off, and use it to hone our seduction abilities.
First,
a review - what does it mean to be a Sacred Seductress? It means living in a
state of magnetism, attracting and seducing the things you want into your life,
and surrendering to your partnership with the Divine in order to set this
process in motion.
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| The average Monday Morning of a seductress, in our fantasies. Reclining River Nymph at the Fountain Lucas Cranach the Elde |
There is a quote by Marcel Proust: “An absence, the decline of a dinner invitation, an unintentional coldness, can accomplish more than all the cosmetics and beautiful dresses in the world.”
In our culture we are taught to say yes to
everything, to take on as much as we can and please everyone no matter what.
How many of us have ever put up with something that is un-pleasurable, or even
downright painful, just so we could avoid the discomfort of saying no? Most
often the reason we find saying no to be so uncomfortable is because we are
afraid of meeting another person’s disapproval.
Well
people, get ready for me to blow your mind.
Your
ability to say no is the key to being liked, adored and admired.
Let’s
say that again: your ability to say no is the key to being liked, adored and
admired.
A
real seductress knows what she wants.
She knows when she wants it. She
also knows what she doesn’t want, and she is unafraid of expressing all of
this. A woman who owns her no is never a bore because she never says yes to
things that bore her. This is a woman who can teach you a thing or two, you can
sense it. She is someone you naturally
want to be around because you know you can trust her. You know you can trust her because you can
tell she trusts herself.
She
is skilled in giving out something I call...The Seductive Smackdown.
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| Secretly? Yum. |
The
Seductive Smackdown is not about hurting others or winning a game. It is not about saying the right thing or
putting on a mask that will manipulate the other person into doing things your
way. It is actually about taking off the
mask and simply speaking what is really on your mind. A seductress knows she
cannot control other people’s viewpoints, nor can she control outcomes. What she can do is contribute her thoughts
and viewpoints to a situation, gently steering the ship in her desired direction. If the ship keeps going in the opposite
direction of where she wants to go, she has the option either get off and swim
to a new adventure, or take a firmer hold on the wheel.
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| I chose NOT to swim away from this adventure. |
When
I gave you this assignment some of you may have found it a challenge. You are not unique. We think of the seductress as being someone
who always knows what to say, and when to say it. If you find yourself tongue
tied, you might think you are too meek to really play the game. But actually,
it is in these precise moments of being tongue tied when TRUE seduction can
enter the room.
True
seduction is not based on tricks or false pretenses. Falsities are not
attractive, and you can smell them from a mile away. True seduction is about letting yourself be
vulnerable; allowing your throat to get dry, letting your cheeks get
flushed. This may make you feel
embarrassed, but I say take it as a wink from the heavens that you are in
exactly the right spot. There is nothing sexier than the truth. When you tell
the truth you are attracting what you TRULY want, and repelling what you do
not. You instantly activate the law of
attraction, because when you tell the truth, no matter how messy or vulnerable
it makes you feel, you attract what is true FOR YOU. And this, my friends, is
the science behind Sacred Seduction.
I
would love to know what you think. Do
you agree? What is your take on seduction and vulnerability? How did it go with
practicing this assignment? Tell me all about it in the comments below.
This week's assignment: Make a list, mental or written of all the things you want in life that you feel impatient about not yet having. They can be material (like a house) or otherwise (like losing 10lb.s) Notice what you get frustrated over, and bring that list to next weeks blog post, where I will be revealing some of the Secrets to Seductive Timing.
This week's assignment: Make a list, mental or written of all the things you want in life that you feel impatient about not yet having. They can be material (like a house) or otherwise (like losing 10lb.s) Notice what you get frustrated over, and bring that list to next weeks blog post, where I will be revealing some of the Secrets to Seductive Timing.
