This summer, I did a lot of biking around the city, both recreationally and getting places. One day in mid August I was biking through Prospect Park and I saw something unusual. It was a bright yellow leaf on an otherwise completely green tree. I pedaled on and saw another. I began to see them all over, some on trees, some on the ground. The reason this felt so strange is because I usually don't notice the seasons changing until the trees look like they are all on fire. This was strange, and it made me feel like something was coming. I felt it in my bones, like when a dog can sense that a storm is on the way. Big change was on the horizon.
|Leaves in Brooklyn|
Big, big change has recently occurred in my life. As a seductress, don't expect me to give you the goodies on what that change was until the end of this post. If you are one of those instant gratifiers: go on, skip ahead. But if you are the type who likes things slow, who likes to savor and hear the whole story, not just the one climactic detail, read on.
At the start of 2012, Kitty Cavalier went on sabbatical. I stopped teaching, stopped writing blogs, all so I could focus on the busiest season at my job. I adore my job, and I gave it my all. We had a really great, successful season. I also felt relief from not having to keep up with Kitty. "This is nice!" I thought. I had evenings and weekends all to myself for the first time in a long time. I would get home at the end of the day feeling satisfied, and ready to rest.
Then Spring arrived, and I heard a new song on the wind. Seduction was calling Kitty out of hibernation.
I first encountered seduction as a lifestyle after visiting Paris. When I returned from my trip, a book caught my eye called La Seduction: How The French Play the Game of Life by Elaine Sciolino. This book explains how in France, seduction is not just a game that is played by two lovers. It is a part of everyday life. Going to the market is an experience in seduction. Negotiating a contract requires great knowledge of the art of seduction. This book changed the way I saw my life, and the way I pursued the things I wanted. I began to see seduction not as a technique, but as a way of living. When I am living in seduction I am acting from a place of total attraction. I am completely surrendered to listening to my intuition. I am unafraid to say an enthusiastic yes to the things I want, and to the things I don't want, I say no without regret.
There is a deep spiritual component to seduction. To practice it, one must see the big picture. It requires great patience and trust. To practice seduction one must surrender to trusting that there is order in the unpredictable. In a world where you can text someone in Indonesia and receive an instant alert two seconds later once they've read it, it makes no sense to us when what we want does not arrive in our time. We get frustrated and agitated, and think we must be doing something wrong. This, right here, is the opposite of seduction.
One thing I know for absolute sure: seduction cannot be rushed. What this means is that the chase is not something to become frustrated by, it is actually the best part. Rather than stomping out feet and getting down on ourselves for not making the things we want appear, seduction helps us to relax and savor each step of the journey. There is a Chinese proverb: "Tension is who you think you should be, relaxation is who you are." This, right here, is the essence of seduction.
|Dancing through change|
For a long time I was trying to figure out who and what Kitty Cavalier really was. I started out teaching burlesque, and I love burlesque, but I am not a burlesque expert. And burlesque is not my deepest passion. My deepest passion is (new age jargon alert) serving the new feminine conscious that is emerging on this planet. For the last several thousand years there has been a consciousness that everything about being a woman is wrong. Damn our stupid periods. Damn that we are the ones who have to suffer through the pain of childbirth. Damn that we are so sensitive. Well, we all know this is getting turned on its fucking head right now. Women everywhere are waking up to the truth that everything about being a woman is not only right, it is completely awesome. Our periods and the cyclical nature of our bodies? Awesome. Being the creators, bearers, and portals to new life? Totally awesome. Feeling things so deeply that we tap into our intuitive, eternal senses rather than just logically trying to work them out? Rad.
Last week I finished my final day at my beloved job. Many of you know I worked at Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts , a school whose teachings I am incredibly devoted to. This was not an easy decision, as this was my dream job come to life, beyond my dreams actually. But seduction has finally seduced me. I have decided to stop working and dedicate myself entirely to growing The School of Charm and Cheek.
This is a big step, a huge risk, an enormous change, and an exhilarating ride. We are coming up on winter, and I have some hibernating to do. I am going to be going off the radar for a bit to create the next phase of the School of Charm and Cheek. I'll still be blogging and teaching Qoya, but I am preparing to dive deep with seduction and I need time and space to do that. This weekend, my diamond of a class: Seduction Is A Spiritual Practice, is the last time I will be teaching seduction for a few months. The reason this email is so urgent is because yesterday we sold out, but I ordered more supplies and figured out a way to take five more Seductresses. I don't want you to miss this chance. If you are being called, jump in. I can't wait to seduce with you, this weekend, or whenever the stars bring us together.