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Monday, December 31, 2012

A New Year's Seduction Ritual

Bath-Time Bliss
It’s midnight on New Year’s Eve-Eve, and right now I am lying in bed, writing by the light of two tapered candlesticks.  Every inch of my body has been soaked, scrubbed and balmed.  My feet are slippery with lotion in my little winter socks.  I am leaving the scent of lavender oil (handmade by my Mother) all over my sheets by laying on them with my bare skin.

One of my core rituals as a Seductress is my bath.  I have been known to take as many as three, sometimes four baths in one day.  I do not have an elegant claw foot tub or a lavish bathroom with heated floors. But I have discovered a way to turn my tiny NYC apartment bathroom into a sacred Goddess temple through the art of ritual.

On this New Year’s Eve, I wanted to share a sweet, sacred ritual that I do to make your New Year sing with sensuality.

Items you will need:

  • 3 things you can add to enhance your bath.  Examples would be: Epsom salts, flower petals, essential oils, bubble bath/body wash, a water-safe object that has meaning to you like a pebble or a shell
  • A few candles
  • A book or magazine that relaxes you (erotica is really good to read in the bath!)
  • Your favorite music (some of my favorite bath-time Pandora stations are India Arie, Brahms, Jami Sieber and The Indigo girls)
  • A towel and lotion for after the bath
1. Prepare
Begin by cleaning the tub, making it fit for a Queen.  As you scrub, do so with the intention of buffing away anything that doesn’t serve you in your body and life.  You don’t have to think about these things as you scrub, just holding the intention will do the trick.

When the tub is clean, fill it with as much water as it will hold!
While the tub is filling, grab a clean towel and fold it nicely. Press play on your music.

2. Create Sacred Space
Light the candles.  As you light each candle envision each of them representing angels of sensuality, there to protect you and hold a sacred space for you to complete your ritual.

3. Dress your bath
Take a moment with each item you have chosen to add to the water. Infuse each item with your intention.  You can turn any ordinary object into a powerful piece of magic just with your thoughts and intentions.  For example, when I sprinkle Epsom salts into my bath, I first hold the salts and say “these salts will draw everything from my body that keeps me from love.  These salts are of the Earth, I am of the Earth. These salts make this water feel like a hug from the Earth itself.”

I then add pure essential oils.  As I add lavender, I say “this oil will bring soothing energy to my bath, easing any stress or tension in my feminine soul”.  As I add the rose oil: “this oil will infuse me with all the beauty, radiance and perfection of a summer rose in full bloom”.  As I add the jasmine oil: “this oil infuses me with the exoticism of the Goddess, her mystery, her intrigue, and her irresistibility”.  

Whatever items you choose, they are perfect.  You can even use table sugar to add more sweetness to your life. It is your intention that gives them their power.  Get creative and don’t hold back!

4. Step In
Step in slowly and savor every moment of sitting back into the water, letting it swirl around you.  Feel as much as you can.  Caress your skin under the water.  Let the music soothe you. Close your eyes and breathe in the steam, the scents, the moment.

If it feels right, pick up your book or magazine. If you like meditation, do that instead. Maybe journaling is your jam. Choose whatever puts a stop to the racing thought patterns in your mind and allows your body to fully relax.

Float on in the bath for as long as you like, a minimum of 20 minutes. Get out when it feels right.  Not when you need to baste the chicken, not when you are bored and want to check your email, when it feels right to your body, then you may step out of the bath.

5. Step Out
When you feel complete, close your eyes and envision Aphrodite, a Goddess born of the sea.  As you stand up, feel yourself as Goddess: renewed, regenerated and reborn, a different woman now than the woman that stepped into that water.

Envelop yourself in your freshly folded towel.  While your skin is still slightly damp, slather yourself with twice the lotion/cream you would normally use. Get your whole body nice and slick.  Then, let your hands run wild all over your skin. Massage, caress and bless yourself with your own hands until the cream starts to absorb. Play with vigorous touch and slow touch. Make sure not to leave a single inch of your body unloved.

When you are finished in the space, thank the Earth, thank the water, thank yourself for taking this time, and thank the Goddess for making you exactly who you are on this day.

Yours in Sacred Seduction,

PS - On New Year's Day, come dance in 2013 with a special Qoya celebration! The theme of the class is saying goodbye to resolutions and hello to Seduction being the new law of attracting your desires. It is going to be a heavenly dance party and your body and soul will feel amazing, during and afterwards - I guarantee it. Join us!!new-years-day-qoya

Thursday, December 20, 2012

2012; All Blessings, All Love, All Thanks

Tomorrow is the shortest day of the year, the Winter Solstice.  I recently read a prayer that says "tonight we rejoice, in this longest night, embracing the darkness that enfolds us."  I've been thinking alot lately about the power of darkness, stillness, quiet.  I've been in hibernation this month, not working, not really doing anything. I thought I'd be taking this whole month to write my business plan for 2013, plan my online program, create a new burlesque class, etc.  All of those things are coming, but what my mind and body demand right now is reflection.  Time to rest. Time to press pause on creation.  Time to let the dust settle.  When the tide comes in again all of those creations will be born. But for now, it is time to rest.

2012 has been an amazing year for Kitty Cavalier, full of pleasure, growth, fun and adventures.  I always love receiving holiday letters that come with lots of pictures and descriptions, so I thought about making this blog entry a photo compilation with explanations of my favorite moments of 2012.  But I think music speaks louder than words, so do enjoy this video with my love.  

Happy Holidays, Happy New Year, Happy Solstice!

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

An Invitation; A Love Story

One day in my office building there was a small fire in the floor above us. No one's safety was at risk, but when I heard that the firemen were considering evacuating the building, my mind immediately went to one place: my makeup.

That may sound vain, but to me, my makeup bag is like a sacred treasure chest. I don't wear makeup because I feel I have to, I wear it because I want to. I love making my lips look like they just had a good make-out session, my eyes look like a Cape Cod sunset. I love having the ability to invoke the bronze glow of summer right in the heart of winter. I love being able to imitate and honor the Femme Vitales I idolize.

When I was 17 I got a job at a makeup counter in a local department store.  This experience was invaluable to me.  I got to play with every product, in every color.  It felt like going into a bakery and being able to take a bite of every single item on the shelf.  Makeup is enjoyable to me because I have learned the skills of how to use it well. When you know the craft, that is when you can really begin to play and have fun. 

Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot of resources out there for a woman to learn how to truly master applying her makeup. Endless trial and error leads to spending too much money on stuff we never use.  Or even worse, stuff we use because we spent so much money on it, but we're not exactly sure how. 

Well, darlings.  What do you think I am here for? 

This Friday, December 7th, I am bringing you my secret makeup weapon: Jessica Padilla.  Every time I do a photo shoot I have her by my side.  She is an incredibly in- demand artist and it is a miracle that she is sharing her gifts with us. 

 Eye Candy: how to create beautiful eye makeup and perfect liner, is a class that shares all the secrets of how to take your eye makeup to the next level.  Jessica will show us how to go from simplest look to the most dramatic, all in a way that is easy, artistic, and fun. The class is kept small so that you can receive actual hands-on instruction from Jessica. 

At just $60, this class is an investment in yourself that you will see the benefits of immediately.  Click here to secure your spot. 

With a perfectly lined, cat-eye wink,

Class takes place Friday, December 7th from 7-9:30pm at 137 West 14th Street, between 6th and 7th Avenues