This is the final post in my Seduction Series, a series
designed to inform my readers about living a life of Sacred Seduction. It has been so much fun to write, and oh, do
I have so much more to tell.
This past weeks assignment was to practice savoring. I will explain a bit more about what savoring really is in a
moment, but first let’s look at an example of what savoring can do in the life
of a seductress.
I have a student who has completely revolutionized her
relationship to dating by adopting the mantra “come to me with diamonds or do
not come at all”. Previously she would
accept dinner invitations to places she didn’t want to go, from people she
didn’t want to see. By learning how to savor and expect only the things she
really, really wants, she is able to weed out people and experiences that would
previously waste her time.
Simplicity can be so seductive |
Another student is experiencing major shifts in the way she
keeps her home. She used to buy anything
and everything that was on sale in an effort to fill her closets, shelves, and
home full of stuff. To her, seeing a
visual of emptiness signified not having enough - it would be better to have a
closet full of stuff she half-liked than just a few items she really
enjoyed. Since learning how to savor,
she has done a major purge of her cluttered home, and now enjoys opening the
closet to see one set of fine white cotton sheets, rather than 5 sets of (her
words) ‘heinous florals’. As a result of
de-cluttering her home, the rest of her life has begun to de-clutter too.
The measure of a true seductress is not how many people or
objects she has seduced into her life. The lifestyle of a seductress is
actually quite slim and simplified. She strictly surrounds herself with the
objects, people, relationships, behaviors and experiences she truly treasures,
rather than cluttering her life with what she does not really want just to
please her ego. She achieves this by learning how to savor each experience, one
moment at a time, gleaning maximum satisfaction before moving on to something
new.
Others might call this “being in the present moment”. But savoring is actually more than that,
because savoring involves not just enjoying the experience itself, but a
sensation we often ignore or even discard:
the sensation of wanting.
An example:
Aww yeah grape! Photo by Liz Linder |
Let’s say you receive a text from the person you went out
with last night whom you really like.
“Oh My God!” you think as you retrieve the phone from your back pocket
where you have been making sure it is on and working all day. You grab the phone, see the person’s name,
and instantly open it to see what’s inside.
Now, imagine this playing out a little differently. The phone buzzes. You feel the anticipation of who it could
possibly be. You slowly pull your phone
out of your pocket, feeling the anticipation the whole time. You see that the person in question is the
one who sent you a text. Rather than
tearing into the message, you force yourself to hold off on opening it for a
whole ten seconds, savoring all the possibilities of what the message might
say. Really, it could say anything, good or bad. As a seductress, through savoring the
anticipation, it doesn’t even matter what the message says. You have already gotten what you wanted from
the experience: the thrill and excitement of this person’s attention. Those 10 seconds of savoring are yours. No matter what the message says, no one can
take that away from you.
Savoring can be the most challenging practices of living a
life of Sacred Seduction. It is a practice that is often sabotaged by the
instant gratification culture we live in.
Have you noticed that high is the new normal? If we are not constantly
doing something, consuming, being entertained, etc. we get instantly frustrated
and bored. Savoring requires a seduction
skill that is near-endangered species: patience.
Practicing savoring my pre-show jitters backstage at Cherrybomb Burlesque. Being best friends with Vivi Le Voix helps. |
Patience is something that can be practiced, cultivated, and
REALLY enjoyed, in addition to making you a much more pleasurable person to be
around. You know how it is when a person
doesn’t get what they want, and they go from being a mature, grounded person into
an insecure child. “The skirt I ordered
for my date on Saturday won’t be here until Monday???!! WHAT??!!!” Or, they completely give up on themselves:
“Oh, the soufflĂ© takes an extra 15 minutes to make? I’ll just have a hamburger
I guess”. Or, they turn into a sweaty,
wide-eyed, desperate werewolf: “When am
I going to hear about this job? They should have called me by today right? Call
my phone and make sure it is working.
Send me an email too, just in case.”
Oi! Now I say they,
but we all know who I am really talking about here, right?
ME! Savoring has been one of the hardest things to practice
in seduction. It has also been the most
rewarding. It has taught me that there
is a whole valley of pleasure to be experienced between wanting and
getting. It has taught me to go for
quality over quantity. It has taught me
to value and treasure the wholeness of an experience, not just the end
result. And this, like all sacred
seduction techniques, so comes in handy when things go differently than
expected. A seductress understands that there are things she can control, and
things she cannot. Through savoring we
are given the freedom to surrender and give up control, opening us up to
adventures we could have never even dreamed on our own.
Tell me in your comments: did you enjoy the practice of savoring the anticipation this week? If you haven't tried it, do so today and report back. I'm VERY interested to hear how it goes.
Tell me in your comments: did you enjoy the practice of savoring the anticipation this week? If you haven't tried it, do so today and report back. I'm VERY interested to hear how it goes.
This last lesson brings the seduction series to a close. Thank you for reading, commenting and doing the exercises. I learn so much from you. If you've enjoyed these posts and you'd like to hear all my Sacred Seduction Secrets (almost all), this coming weekend (February 1st
and 2nd) is the last time I will be teaching Seduction Is A Spiritual Practice until the Fall. Recently I had
an amazing adventure in seduction as I sent my husband on a scavenger hunt to
find me in NYC. If you’d like to hear that and other stories of mystery,
intrigue and wanting, do join us in class Friday night.
Blonde wigs are essential to Seduction Scavenger Hunts. Come hear the whole story this Friday night. |